Marriage, children, religion, money… this is the subject of a long analysis by Dr. Jaouad Mabrouki, psychiatrist and expert in psychoanalysis of Moroccan and Arab society.
In his analysis, the expert thus shared several observations on parents who complain of their children who pose a lot of difficulty to them. And all they can find to say, he emphasizes, is ” God tests me through the children “Without” to be able to question oneself and are they not responsible for the behavior of their children, as if it isknows of a fate preestablishes and of a divine will, not to say “a revenge divine ”since the majority of parents question God what did I do, my God, to deserve this? “.
Dr. Mabrouki thus wonders how can we analyze this belief divine trials?
In this first part, the expert in psychoanalysis of Moroccan and Arab society believes that “Moroccans get married to get married, to be like everyone else, without clear objectives and while ignoring the institution of marriage. So they let themselvest go with the traditional stream, social and religious “.
He continues with this in mind that marriage is taken only as a obedience to Religion expressed by the famous phrase ” I want to get married to complete my faith “.
In this section, Dr. Mabrouki argues that the number of children is never planned in a couple and it is left to chance for several reasons, the first is ” the pride to have a lot of children “.
” Culturally in the past, a man’s pride becomes more hypertrophied depending on wealth, number of women and the one children. This belief is still rooted in our culture He said.
Ignorance of the role educative parents
Parents ignore instruments and tools, says Dr. Mabrouki required that they owe to acquire previously for educate children before they even have them and they rely on their own experiences. Now, children are different and education is almost à la carte and must adapt to each child’s profile and according to the evolutionary stages and the reshuffling of conditions of life, explains the expert, stressing that as a result, parents are not equipped to adapt their education under many circumstances
The economic aspect
Money and children! On this point, the expert puts forward an important point rooted in Moroccan culture, namely that ” Moroccans never worry about the financial aspect and the needs of children according to the belief that every child, God him Reserve His part “.
He continues in this sense that some Moroccans “ do not have the tool of the critical spirit of questioning, on the one hand because of theeducation traditional and on the other hand because of the religion which does not allowaccess to speech and criticism but on the other hand she encouragesobedience blinded “.
The contraception, a peach?
The contraception in its early stages met with fierce opposition from religious people who assume she is opposing at the divine will and in some cases as for the IUD who is considered like an abortion of moment that the fertilization at already took place, explains Dr. Mabrouki.
In a section entitled ” increase the number of believers “, The expert says that in the past” religions needed a large number of believers and warriors to defend against enemy religions but also for to conquer the world. It was therefore the wars and human losses that had to be replaced “.
He explains that “ the believers were encouraged to have a lot of children males. Since the Moroccan still lives in the past of the Arabs and their periods of glory, unconsciously they continue to conceive a lot of children “.
L‘absence of the concept of responsibility
In this last part, Dr. Mabrouki indicates that “sadly, Moroccan did not acquire the concept of responsibility and he always sees himself as a victim since his childhood “stressing that”education, teaching and religion are reprimands and learn in Moroccan since he was young age ofto obey the parents And God“.
Ultimately, he concludes that ” parents are see also victims of their own children and before thefailure of their education for all the reasons mentioned above “Thus noting that” their only comfort is that God experiences their faith over there delinquency of their children! “.